If we only knew

If we only knew

There isn’t a precise moment when you can see it happen. Only that he has grown. It’s not an abrupt shift, and could possibly only be observed through a time lapse filming, like the BBC’s Planet Earth footage of a flower blooming or a sunrise from space. It is as dramatic and beautiful as that, too. Truly the bloom, the explosion, is easy and amazing to see, if we can manage to see it. Sometimes we are hanging around too close to the subject, and we are too myopic or wrongly focused. But when we step back and get a proper look, we see a bigger picture. Last weekend, I was given a stunning portrait of a genuine, brilliant, honorable young man. His college basketball career was coming to an end. He would be celebrated as a graduating senior in the way he’d...

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Embarking on new adventures and finding our own old footprints

Embarking on new adventures and finding our own old footprints

Sometimes when we forge new paths, we find footprints we ourselves left decades earlier. Our family is moving back to Southern California from the serene and naturally beautiful Western edge of the mitten state. (Hold up your left hand.) I spent my childhood in Michigan, so I have a deep fondness for the lakes and the uniqueness of this state’s magnificent geography and sweet fun-loving people. I left LA 20 years ago when my eldest was less than 2, believing that I wanted to raise my kids in the values-orientation of the Midwest rather than the maniacal superficiality of the Hollywood State. To be true, my point of view was skewed by my own untamed lifestyle in the 80’s and 90’s, and it was impossible for me to imagine any healthy upbringing for my children...

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Quick: Who Am I Now?

Quick: Who Am I Now?

It all happens in a flash. Our youngest turns 8 and counts the minutes until his friends arrive for backyard maniac birthday party. My eldest turns 21 and heads to Prague with his collegiate basketball team to inspire high school students to strive for an uplifted life. Then, of course, he’s taking the dozens of dollars he’ll have left to tour Germany and Austria for an extra week. (Ah, yes.  No “SendMoney” phone calls coming from that one, right?) In the middle of our home-tribe, is a beautiful and high-integrity 15 year old part-young-woman and part-little-girl who is trying figure out how she thinks about smut on instagram. Lots of parents who have a long span of years between kids’ Birth Days need to operate with a form of parental schizophrenia,...

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Listening to the Tock and the Tick

Listening to the Tock and the Tick

I’ve spent my business life working to understand what makes people tick and finding creative ways to connect with them. Sometimes the study is about people with whom I have much in common, but mostly I’ve learned about people who think quite differently to me. I know this is part of what I’ve loved about my job because it’s also what I do in life — being every-day fascinated by the tick-tock of human behavior. The people I study have different behaviors and priorities. Their days are filled with concerns that begin and end along a path on which I have never walked.  But it’s my job to dig deeply enough and have a heart to care enough that I can communicate effectively with them.  Whoever they are. So… I always like a good paradox and...

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Integrating Faith With Life. Simple…?

Integrating Faith With Life. Simple…?

Be in the world Not of the world. But for heaven’s sake, be in the world. Let’s see.  Politicians debate the role of their religion and their faith as it relates to their roles as governmental leaders.  Bloggers pontificate (eloquently of course) about the hypocrisy of Christians celebrating Halloween and Santa.  Most folks are okay with Thanksgiving being a kind-hearted secular holiday even though the implication (and historic origin) is that we are carrying on a tradition of giving thanks to God after a bountiful harvest season. Whether you and the people around you believe Halloween and/or Thanksgiving were started by pagans or Christians to open doors to the dead (or undead?) and giving thanks to God or Mother Nature, we are all hopefully wise enough to...

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