Which article surprises you more?

Which article surprises you more?

Today’s news connection: The Huffington Post reports on what men say about their ex-wives.  This oughta be good.  Click. The statements are contradictory and, on the surface a bit whiny.  But when you stop to consider the deeper meaning, (which might be risky) the potential truth huddled beneath the whining is quite important. And the reality is magnified.  The statements are true…. each one. How much do we honor their needs without worrying about our own being neglected?  Hmmmmm. It seems that we still have lots to learn about the inexpressible fulfillment of sacrificial marital love; that it returns manifold, mountaintop joy. I know: it’s so not ingrained in our world.  We struggle with equality, feminism and some misguided belief that couples have a...

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Knowing your part in the hold.

Knowing your part in the hold.

It seems like a tough season. Maybe because it’s January. Many people in my life are struggling with relationships in one way or another and [spoiler alert] women often talk about relationships. No matter how we carve it up, and try to control it, all of life is about relationships. (yes, with other people) It’s like the secret to physical health is always drink more water, eat healthy food and get some exercise every day. The trouble is: no one else can take care of either of these truths for us. Today our children are facing their own relationship situations, and we know this is the second most important job we have: to teach them to be a friend. Since my eldest was a tot, I’ve tried to teach one of the first ideas to ponder in any relationship. It’s...

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Enter Super Heroes

Enter Super Heroes

Summertime Afternoon. Jack and his pal Eden disappear into the game room downstairs and things get dangerously quiet.  But at this moment, I’m so far behind in writing and work that I irresponsibly convince myself that they’re having fun and all is good. Carpe 5 minutes. With no worries about markers on walls or pokey-sharp objects, I keep working.  More time passes. Eventually both kids appear upstairs having fully rummaged through the Halloween box that has expanded over 20 years of culture-seasons and questionable taste.  Jack is a combination Cruella DeVille+Keith Richards+Batman, and Eden is sporting the simpler hybrid of Wolverine+Ironman.  Super heroes of their own making. (Jack will kill me for posting this picture. Even at 7, he has pride.) They...

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An Age-Old Recipe

Now I step committed into a new course of study.  My first assignment: absorb the teaching that’s housed in a book thought up by Dr. Henry Cloud a few years back. (Not to toot my own horn, but once again, it’s all connected.) GRACE …….  TRUTH …………… TIME All three essential: each one with particular and custom proportions for each of us, all striving and yearning to be close to God. What if…. we were to give our family, neighbors, associates, passersby and ourselves the full understanding of God’s three-part recipe for honest and forever love? It’s that “time” thing that’s the hardest, if you think about it. Or is it the Grace that’s most difficult to find sometimes? But then,...

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Lover, We Are Still In Our Own Way

I know. I’m like that girl in the office who quit smoking and now thinks it’s her job to make every other smoker quit too.  Right now.  Annoying possibly, but you know she’s right. ~~~~~ It seems like every day I’m hearing about someone getting divorced. Or wants to. Maybe it’s my reticular activator running the show since I’ve been reading The Meaning of Marriage (Keller) and I am a reformed control freak. Because it is control that makes us want our spouse to be a certain way, that makes us want to get something different. If we learn to release control, we need to only release the control of our heart to one place. The place where miracles happen. God is where it starts, grows and explodes into magnificence. God created marriage and he created it...

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